Children enter the world needing nurturing, affirmation, support and direction to healthfully navigate the journey from childhood, through adolescence and into adulthood.
But sadly, due to circumstances often beyond their control, many children suffer childhood traumas or simply don't get the levels of care and concern they need from their parents or primary caregivers. It could be that mom or dad was emotionally or physically unavailable, there was addiction or violence in the home, or there was socio-economic instability, or even that the primary caregiver was struggling with their own mental health or emotional issues. In these situations, children adapt to survive, but what works well to get a kid safely through childhood often creates unproductive and destructive patterns such as:
Struggles with Self Esteem: too much or too little
Struggles with interpersonal boundaries
Difficulty owning their own reality
Struggles identifying, communicating, and obtaining needs and wants
Struggles with moderation
Difficulty in relationships: avoidance or addiction
Dependence or needless-wantlessness
Early life events can impact the way adults experience the world, manage stress, their sense of self-esteem, the way in which they relate to others. Their survival adaptations from childhood impact these now grown individuals in their ability to manage emotions and sometimes lead to physical symptoms, addictions or painful relationships; we call this developmental immaturity.
Guided by a process called Post Induction Therapy (PIT) I as your therapist can help you learn to deal with your history and the effects it has on your daily life and relationships, and together we identify codependent thinking, processing and help you learn to more effectively regulate emotions and behaviors.