Elliot Talenfeld MC, LAC

Relational conflict can be an expression of one or both partners’ thrust for personal authenticity and/or relational intimacy. Most of us have scars from our childhood or past relationships that deter us from fully opening our hearts, even to those we claim to love. Many couples thus enter into a tacit agreement not to rock the emotional-relational boat. But we can learn to rock that boat more gently and productively. In "The Road Less Traveled,” M. Scott Peck wrote: “Every genuinely loving relationship is one of mutual psychotherapy.” I teach couples how to do their own mutual therapy. Lovingly, and with integrity.


It can be years into a relationship (e.g., after one spouse has gotten into individual therapy) before the relational seas get choppy. But, our personal (individual) growth and domestic tranquility need not be at cross-purposes. In my work as a counselor, I strive for a holistic synergy between my clients’ individual and relational goals and processes.

Before training as a counselor, I spent 25 years as a law professor, litigator and judge. So I know how professional personas can condition us to avoid all appearance of vulnerability. My goal today is not to help my clients win their cases, but to become more emotionally self-aware; for a more intimate and satisfying relationship with their life partners.


Elliot offers relationship counseling foradults, both in-person (downtown Phoenix) or via HIPAA secure telehealth.

He enjoys supporting partners and families to resolve conflict, address and heal from infidelity, and improve communication.