If you have ADHD, the standard advice of "just use a planner" or "just try harder" is like telling a person with a broken leg to "just walk faster." Your brain isn't broken; it's interest-based. While the neurotypical world is motivated by importance, rewards, and consequences, your nervous system is fueled by novelty, challenge, and urgency. Understanding your unique motivation style is the key to stopping the cycle of shame.

When the world feels like it is "on fire,' the human brain naturally defaults to a state of chronic hypervigilance. Evolutionarily, we are wired to prioritize "the fire" because the fire is what can kill us. However, staying in that state of high arousal indefinitely leads to emotional exhaustion and a sense of pervasive hopelessness. To find "glimmers" we have to move beyond positive thinking and into the realm of applied polyvagal theory and neuroscience.

Stress can even stop you from getting a good night’s sleep. Since sleep deprivation increases your chances of long-term ailments